How to Overcome Negative Thinking Patterns with Holistic Life Coach Eliane Adler
By Miri Lenoff
·June 9, 2026
The thought arrives automatically. You made a mistake and you call yourself stupid. You are nervous about something and you decide you are going to fail. You look at your life and a voice says it is not enough.
You did not choose those thoughts. They arrived on their own, the way they always do, because your mind has practiced them thousands of times. But just because they are automatic does not mean they are true.
Eliane Adler, a holistic life coach, has built her practice around this distinction. Negative thinking patterns are learned. And what is learned can be unlearned.
Where Negative Patterns Come From
The mind learns through repetition. Every time a thought fires alongside an emotion, the connection strengthens. Over time, certain situations reliably produce certain thoughts, not because those thoughts are accurate but because the circuit has been reinforced.
Many of the most damaging thought patterns begin in childhood or adolescence, when we are absorbing messages from the world around us and we do not yet have the tools to evaluate them critically. Those messages become internal voices. Those voices become automatic.
Eliane works with clients to trace their patterns back to their origins, not to dwell on the past but to recognize that the beliefs driving their current experience were installed by someone or something else, and they do not have to keep running.
The Difference Between a Thought and a Fact
One of the most powerful shifts Eliane facilitates is helping people see the gap between a thought and a truth. Thoughts feel true. They arrive with conviction. But the feeling of certainty is not evidence.
A useful practice is to treat your negative thoughts as hypotheses rather than conclusions. Instead of accepting the thought, examine it. What is the actual evidence for this belief? What is the evidence against it? If you held this belief about someone you loved, would you consider it fair?
Most negative self-talk does not survive this kind of honest examination.
Replacing Patterns With Beliefs That Serve You
Eliane is clear that positive thinking is not the goal. Replacing one distortion with another does not solve the problem. The goal is accuracy, choosing thoughts that reflect reality rather than the worst-case interpretation of it.
This process takes time because you are building new neural pathways to compete with well-established ones. The old pattern will reassert itself. The work is in noticing when it does and choosing not to act on it, again and again, until the new response becomes the default.
When you change what you believe is possible, you change what you are willing to try. And what you are willing to try changes everything.
Watch the full conversation with Eliane Adler on the Known Success Coaches Spotlight.